couples are often willing to move heaven and earth in order to have a baby.
However, I find to my dismay that a lot of them do things which actually end up
reducing their fertility!
They use lubricants while having sex which kill the sperm. Having "baby
making sex" on demand is not much fun for either husband or wife - and
it's quite common to have to use lubricants in order to be able to achieve
intravaginal penetration. However, many couples will use lubricants such as K-Y
jelly or saliva - both of which can kill the sperm! If you do need to use a
lubricant, please use a sperm friendly lubricant. The easiest one to buy (and
the cheapest one) is liquid paraffin. It' easy available OTC at a chemist -
just look under the laxatives!
Timing sex. Most couples know that the wife is fertile for only a few days
during the entire month. However, because they are quite clueless about what
these fertile days actually are ( and do not whom to ask or how to calculate
them), they often end up having sex on Day 14 ( which they remember vaguely
from their high school biology class on human reproduction ( when they weren't
busy pretending to be blase because they " knew it all" ; or were
giggling and blushing) is the day when ovulation occurs and the egg is
released). However, for many women, Day 14 can actually be an "infertile day”
(for example, for women whose cycles are 25 days or less).
having enough sex. Many wives refuse to allow their husbands to have sex until
their "peak fertility day". They believe that if they "store up
the sperm" and then discharge this with a big bang, their chances of
getting pregnant increase. Actually, this is not true. You cannot really store
up the sperm - the count does go up when ejaculation is delayed - but it's the
immotile sperm which increase - not the motile ones! It's far more efficient t
have frequent sex, as long as the sperm are going in the vagina!
Many infertile women still use BBT charting to try to track their
fertile day. This is a big, big mistake. While BBT charting does provide useful
evidence to the doctor , it's only retrospective evidence - it does not help to
identify the fertile days, as the BBT raises only after ovulation has occurred
( at which time the cervical mucus dries up and sperm can no longer enter the
uterus and swim up to the egg).
doing any homework. It still astonishes me as to how poorly informed many
infertile couples are about the basics of baby making! They will often waste
time trying herbs and supplements advertised on dodgy websites to "boost
their sperm count"; or take "fertility tablets" to increase
their fertility. They will allow months to run into years before seeking
medical attention - or even doing a basic (and inexpensive) fertility
workup, to confirm that everything this fine.